Mary, The mother of Motherhood and more (Four Great Women Series Part 2.2)

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Mary and Society

m2( Is society Pushing Motherhood)

Looking at the situation today we see something becoming clear despite progress. Motherhood is seen as inferior and politician continue to weaken it. Freelance writer Shohana Khan, discussed  this in great detail in her Huffington post article ” is Society Pushing Motherhood ” 

She discussed under five subheadings why and how societal factors weaken motherhood. Shohana Khan says ” Osborne’s recent decision to give even high-end earning parents childcare vouchers, leaving stay at home mothers totally unsupported. Whatever political party has been in power, policies may have differed but for a Capitalist Government, the focus has always been making childcare easier so women can swiftly go back to work as the economy needs it”
Modern economy requires the mother to go out and work, and the burden remains on her neck. Mariam (PBUH) was in a similar situation. the Noble Qur’an recounts us
  And the pains of childbirth drove her to the trunk of a palm tree. She said, “Oh, I wish I had died before this and was in oblivion, forgotten.(19:23)
But he called her from below her, “Do not grieve; your Lord has provided beneath you a stream.And shake toward you the trunk of the palm tree; it will drop upon you ripe, fresh dates.So eat and drink and be contented. And if you see from among humanity anyone, say, ‘Indeed, I have vowed to the Most Merciful abstention, so I will not speak today to [any] man.(19:24-26)
These verses are pure empowerment for the Modern women. Empowerment in a climate where the weakest among us loses the struggle in the concrete jungle. The woman is undergoing a rigorous treatment. The society makes work compulsory on everyone including single mothers that already have challenging lives.
Although we have this colossus image of Mary (MPBUH), we still see apprehension and pain whilst her environment was turning against her. Allah  سبحانه و تعالى assured her that he will provide for her. However  the level of trust from her side was only possible as the relation between Mary and her creator previously existed. Real motherhood long gone. Instead they replaced it with Neyo’s “Miss Independent” a fake image of a woman who denies that happiness is attained through Marriage and family life.
Mariam ( May peace be upon her) was also independent. Independent from any physical support from this world. She would worship and develop remarkable abilities to rely on Al Wakeel ( The ultimate trustee). This gave her cutting edge and true superiority over many others. ” Mothers, Brothers Sisters and Fathers, we must understand that Allah سبحانه و تعالى  is in control of everything, so what gives us the right to believe we are the real providers?”
The Noble Quran tells us…So she conceived him, and she withdrew with him to a remote place ( 19 :22)
The Emphasis for our argument lies on “remote place” So when nobody knew about  Mariam’s pregnancy, who was providing for her ?. She decided to withdraw herself and Allah سبحانه و تعالى out his justice and mercy decided to take care of her.
(typical depiction of radical feminist propaganda The woman  on the picture represents is denying the fact that both components  female and male are vital for the existence civilisation)
These verses are bites on bullets for the haters back then and today. They shun the female and degrade her for having a child without being married. They make it hard on single mothers and invent lies about them. An impregnated single mother looses against society knowing or unknowingly. How many pregnancies end up to be an abortion. Pro-choice contradicts building a nation.  Unexpected  pregnancies come in times of hardship.The same way glad tidings were given to Mariam (MPBUH).
Internchange does not advocate a pro-promiscuous society, but are we forgetting that Allah  سبحانه و تعالى is in charge of all affairs.
He said, “I am only the messenger of your Lord to give you [news of] a pure boy.” ( 19:19)
He said, “Thus [it will be]; your Lord says, ‘It is easy for Me, and We will make him a sign to the people and a mercy from Us.And it is a matter [already] decreed.'(19:21)
So when angel Gabriel announced that Mariam (MPBUH) will be among the best women, we forget that Allah سبحانه و تعالى  chose her to have boy. Do we forget that Allah  سبحانه و تعالى decides when  a child will be born  regardless of the situation?
And [mention] when the angels said, “O Mary, indeed Allah has chosen you and purified you and chosen you above the women of the worlds 3:42
“Mothers, Sisters and daughters, Allah  سبحانه و تعالى chose Mariam ( MPBUH) above the women of the worlds, despite her being a single parent. Allah  سبحانه و تعالى gave her a great status, for her qualities such as, modesty, consistency and bravely against the false allegations. Let us have a glance at society today. What is promoted, and how is the strong woman depicted in the media ?. She has to be sexy, reckless desperate and wild. She has to be self-centred and career driven. She has to be beautiful, slim and adhere to what the fashion houses in Paris dictate. Allah  سبحانه و تعالى  elevates Mariam ( MPBUH) and says to us, male and female “she is an example to you”. “Follow her footstep as good as you can”.
These pessimistic and negative people existed before. The noble Quran tells us
Then she brought him to her people, carrying him. They said, “O Mary, you have certainly done a thing unprecedented.(19:27)
O sister of Aaron, your father was not a man of evil, nor was your mother unchaste.”(19:28)
 As aforementioned people at Mariam’s time, and people today have the same way of degrading women. These verses mirror thousand of years of bad practice from people that hold subjective realities and judge according to it. So it is not a coincidence that women hesitate to bear children or even to get married. Women don’t want to be stigmatised any longer.
“You are only good female if you stay at home”. You only worthy, if you honour your customs regardless how backwards they are. ” Your are dishonoured, you are a shame to the nation, You are cheap and clean”. The philosophy of “only god can judge me” are now counter arguments for those who fall into these situation that are clearly harmful for them. The “Only God can judge me” motto becomes just another form of defence mechanism. What is the outcome of such a statement.  Well  groups like Femen use it as an opportunity as seen in the Amina Sbou case earlier this year.Whereby Sympathy is all what it takes to eliminate negativity and produce a line of strong women.
But Allah سبحانه و تعالى repsonds to these accusation in manner we should pay attention to. The noble Qur’an tells us

And [We cursed them] for their disbelief and their saying against Mary a great slander,( 4:156)

Allah   سبحانه و تعالى  makes clear that you can slander the women for it, but he ( exalted is he) is the final judge. We must look at it from the third person perspective.  We should advise,  forbid the evil and enjoin the good as a society. However judeging without understanding the situation of the individual and then swiftly jumping into conclusion is not what is meant by it. The people were making assumption without having a prove against Mariam (MPBUH).  We all see that the situation is getting out of control. People start to literally slander Mariam . Although as the situation gets more intense the bigger the miracle becomes. The noble Qur’an tells us then

So she pointed to him. They said, “How can we speak to one who is in the cradle a child?”( 19:29)

[Jesus] said, “Indeed, I am the servant of Allah . He has given me the Scripture and made me a prophet.(19:20)

The lesson here is not to despair and firmly point to the miracle if we perceive it. Rejoice and be thankful, for the affair of the believer is beautiful. If something bad happens he remains thankful and praises his lord, if something good happen he remains positive.Being happy with the situation and appreciating such things will give advantage in life. An almost constant state of happiness. We must direct ourself  to the sky and trust in Allah  سبحانه و تعالى, as Mariam pointed to Isa ( MPBUH) to refer back to Allah  سبحانه و تعالى. These acts seem simple, but putting ourself in her situation we see  a young women who never had any sexual contacts with a man being accused of something like that. The only thing she knew was the worship of her creator. She managed to overcome the social challenges and kept her cool and succeed at the end.

m 4 ( not only for women)

How many of us slander women on the basis of that she is something. Some people tend to forget, that we live in times of extreme over sexualisation. In the centre of the disaster is the woman. Her image used to cause million dollar companies to break record sales.  Used to cause corruption and target young children and men to fall into immoral acts.

In extreme cases, incidents like Rehtaeh Parsons,17, will continue to happen. Rehtaeh committed suicide, because of images appeared on the web of her being Gang raped. She was found by her mother in the bathroom of their family home in Nova Scotia shortly after she hanged herself in April this year. How many more case like that have to happen before we realise that we are have a problem with sexuality and how women are seen in general. Many young children are raised without a father figure.  We don’t say that household without father are bound to fail, but we must acknowledge  the differences of these households. As a society the focus should be on protecting children.  Birth itself is the reason we progressed. Why is it now that care less about it. The noble Qur’an tells us.

And We made the son of Mary and his mother a sign and sheltered them within a high ground having level [areas] and flowing water.(23:50)

He will speak to the people in the cradle and in maturity and will be of the righteous.”(3:46)

And He will teach him writing and wisdom and the Torah and the Gospel(3:48)

Birth indeed is a miracle so let us not belittle this miracle that happen millions times on the earth. Mothers and Sisters, and Daughters don’t let anyone tell you that you are worth nothing because We established regardless of your circumstances people cannot strip away the Lordship of Allah سبحانه و تعالى . it does not mean that you are filthy or not pure. The repentance is for the one who sincerely seeks it. The chance to obtain modesty while you’re in that stage is not impossible as the noble closes this article with the verses
And [mention] the one who guarded her chastity, so We blew into her [garment] through Our angel [Gabriel], and We made her and her son a sign for the worlds. (21:91)
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Amina from “Femen Tunisia” quits the movement, too Islamophobic

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“I do not want my name to be associated with an Islamophobic organisation,” These are the words of a highly controversial personality. Amina Sboui ( may Allah  سبحانه و تعالى have mercy on her)  a Tunisian activist quits Femen after realising the real agenda behind the movement. Amina Sboui ignited an online splash earlier this year by posting naked pictures of herself with a painted slogan on her body saying ” My body belongs to me, and not a source of anyone’s honour”. She told the Maghreb edition of the Huffington Post that she won’t  be part of the organisation any longer. She also adds “I did not appreciate the action taken by the girls shouting ‘Amina Akbar, Femen Akbar’ in front of the Tunisian embassy in Paris.

She disapproves the blasphemous chants of Allahu akbar ( God is Greater) and the burning of the black Tawheed Flag and ,says that she has friends and family that were deeply affected by it.  “We must respect everyone’s religion,” she added.

65730_325297964240018_21084959_n(Burning of the Tawheed Flag)

It is pure financial greed and ignorance that drives these young females into self-destruction. It is like a ship on the pacific ocean with only the captain knowing what direction they heading to. This became clear when Amina asked Femen leader Inna Shevchenko where and how the organisation is financed. She says ““I don’t know how the movement is financed. I asked (Femen leader Inna Shevchenko) several times, but I didn’t get a clear answer. I don’t want to be in a movement supported by suspect money. What if it is financed by Israel? I want to know.”

Femen  founded in Ukraine in 2008 and shifted  later to Paris  and received more exposure in central Europe. The movement has been fallen  under suspicion  for a while due to  the mysterious figures behind the movement. Victor Svyatski is considered as the mastermind behind the group. Mr Syvatski is known as a “consultant” to the movement yet there are reports of abuse within the organisation that from him. According  to Ms Green’s documentary she says “He can be really horrible but he is fiercely intelligent,”  she adds he sought to justify his role within the organisation and  acknowledged the paradox of being a “patriarch” running a feminist protest group. “These girls are weak,” he says in the film.

The question arises is all what these women believe may just be another version of how to control a group of individuals. Is Femen just another cult that disregards the well-being of women ? Is Nudity really Freedom ?

“Nudity is Freedom”

Outrage pays well, whether its Islam ignorant bigoted Pamela Geller, or Brigitte Gabriel, the dollars dictate. Femen is not exempt from this humanistic voracity. reports citing the Italian edition Il Foglio.

“Each protester in Kiev gets a thousand euros a month, and its activists here are paid 2,500 euros (with the average salary in Kiev of 500 euros),” Il Foglio writes.

According to a Kiev source with the Italian edition, in Paris, the girls from Femen earn much more – they can get about 1000 euros a day.

Il Foglio says the female movement is sponsored by an American entrepreneur and German businessmen.

“Femen activists are allegedly paid by American Jed Sanden, a business person who runs a business in Kiev, as well as two rich men from Germany,” the article reads.

Thus, the publication concludes that Femen is a well-funded structure.

Well no wonder why, The organization plans to become the biggest and the most influential movement in Europe. Why is Femen not tackling the real issues. They merely jumping on  the badawagon and think it is justified to react ignorantly. Condemnation without investigation is the height of ignorance.


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Mary, the mother of Motherhood and more (Four Great Women Series Part 2.1)

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In today’s society equality for the female is sought through materialistic means. Feminist want to close the gap that exist between male and female by opposing the so called Patriarchal system. The women today challenges the status Quo because they are not part of it. Has an egalitarian society in that sense ever existed ? are there possibilities for the existence of such a society ?. Let us set the premises for such an argument and have a holistic approach for it.

Politician and “Green Party” Leader Natalie Benette debated in may earlier this year at the Oxford union. She argued against the motion( We are all feminist) using the FIFA analogy :stating that FIFA would not allow women to play with men even if they have the ability, and therefore we as society are far away from being a complete feminist society.I’ll pose the question and ask would it be equally fair then to have professional man to play in a women football league ? The emphasis here lies on the women that has the ability to play in male dominated football league. The answers to the question is the answer to the roots of all contemporary contentions, hold by the Neo-feminist movement. How can you treat something equal when they are different initially ?


Internchange is not going to enumerate the differences rather use commonalities that can make man and woman equal in a way people tend to neglect. Make both genders equal in a sense without omitting the undeniable nature of a woman. Mary the mother of Jesus notorious modesty and spirituality became an example for many generations. All of these achievement at the tender age of twelve. We want to eradicate the believe that Women are lost if they carry babies, especially if the father is not there.  We live in a society that weakens the Motherhood. Shall this be an empowerment to the Single mothers out there “you have an enormous force behind you”. Let us all together guard our chastity receive the honour believe in words of our lord, and obey him devoutly. Sounds simple in incredibly hard times. The noble Qur’an says

And [the example of] Mary, the daughter of ‘Imran, who guarded her chastity, so We blew into [her garment] through Our angel, and she believed in the words of her Lord and His scriptures and was of the devoutly obedient. ( 66:12)


This verse is so powerful and gives us an inside of the historical context of the situation. ALLAH سبحانه و تعالى defends  Mary( May Peace be upon her) at a time allegation were flying like bullets. What really blows my mind is that the verse, although used as a moral guideline and yardstick  to attain superiority over others fulfils its purpose of defending her in one verse.

Mary and the family

As we discussed in the previous episode of “The Four Great Women ” women are mothers to a nation. This notion has died during the 60’s due to the contribution of the likes of Gloria Steinmem,Bella Abzug and Betty Friedan. In this article we will present a solution for the dilemma of the modern woman. We are going to look at how important motherhood is in harsh conditions, and appreciate the qualities of a woman.The remedy and the real liberation lies in the ability to forget about male and female. ALLAH  سبحانه و تعالى make this clear by using Mariam (MPBUH) The mother of ISA ( jesus MPBUH), as an example to follow as mentioned in similar Correlation with Asiyah (MPBUH).

Mariam (MPBUH)  also known as Mary or the Mother of Isa (jesus MPBUH) is a key figure in the history and is known for many qualities. We want to Understand why she was mentioned by the messenger of Allah ( سبحانه و تعالى ) as being the mother of a nation and one  out of the Four great women. What can we learn from her ?. Let the article speak for itself  ,and express empowerment. People tend to overlook the weight Mariam  (MPUBH) personality holds. Although to fully understand we must look at the bigger picture

The Noble Quran tells us

But when she delivered her, she said,

“My Lord, I have delivered a female.” And Allah was most knowing of what she delivered, “And the male is not like the female. And I have named her Mary, and I seek refuge for her in You and [for] her descendants from Satan, the expelled [from the mercy of Allah ].”  3:36

( Baitul Magdis )  3824457783_596e61094d_o

These are the words  of Mariam’s mother. What is so interesting about the statement Mariam’s mother makes, is that she was expecting a boy to carry on the legacy.The believe that only man were fit for purpose  refuted by ALLAH (he exalted is he) as he deliberately chooses to respond  to her prayer by giving her a daughter instead of a boy.Furthermore we can see that there are differences between male and female. This might be one of the biggest evidences that Islam does not discriminate against genders. Another example for superiority and Wisdom in the Qur’an over human reasoning.

Mariam’s mothers took her to the Mosque of Baitul Magdis, and talked to the care taker and worshippers at the mosque. Zechariah Mariam’s cousin was of them. He later won custody over her.The mother took charge and her say had weight in a male dominated society.

The household  Mariam( MPBUH) was raised will reveal how such a great character was developed. Her father Imran  died before her birth.This formed an even stronger individual. Lebron james says similar

” Being the only man in the household with my mom definitely helped me grow up fast”

This is also would apply to Mariam ( Mary MPBUH) and her mother who vowed during her pregnancy that she would let the newborn serve Baitul Maqdis. In the religious code of earlier Prophets, there was a method of worship through which a child, out of one’s children, could be freed  from all worldly services and devoted exclusively for Allah سبحانه و تعالى .

. ALLAH سبحانه و تعالى , out of his consideration for the sincerity Mariam mother accepted that very girl and thereby made her status distinct from any other girl of the world.

From here we learn that a mother holds a certain measure of guardianship over her child  in respect of his or her education and training. Mariam’s mother would have never vowed  if the mother had no right of guardianship over child,


The noble Quran says:

So her Lord accepted her with good acceptance and caused her to grow in a good manner and put her in the care of Zechariah. Every time Zechariah entered upon her in the prayer chamber, he found with her provision. He said “O Mary, from where is this [coming] to you?” She said, “It is from Allah. Indeed, Allah provides for whom He wills without account.” 3:37

This verse gives us insight on how convicted Mariam (MPBUH ) was as an individual . She invested her entire energy into the worship.The worship that lead to liberation. Worship which channelled her energy into positivity. We want you to critically examine this fraction. She became more confident and independent by worshipping Allah سبحانه و تعالى. is it merely the effect of placebo or something more profound. Young female have the ability to generate extra energy which could be linked to the fact that women have traditionally been care takers of their own homes, which required enormous energy. This type of energy is still  detectable in our society .This type of energy today is translated into performances, as widespread of studies suggest that young female outperform male in educational institution such as universities.

So where does the energy come from, and what else will we learn from such a great women. The answer to that and more will be revealed in  “Mary,The mother of Motherhood and more 2.2”

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