Mary and Society
( Is society Pushing Motherhood)
Looking at the situation today we see something becoming clear despite progress. Motherhood is seen as inferior and politician continue to weaken it. Freelance writer Shohana Khan, discussed this in great detail in her Huffington post article ” is Society Pushing Motherhood ”
She discussed under five subheadings why and how societal factors weaken motherhood. Shohana Khan says ” Osborne’s recent decision to give even high-end earning parents childcare vouchers, leaving stay at home mothers totally unsupported. Whatever political party has been in power, policies may have differed but for a Capitalist Government, the focus has always been making childcare easier so women can swiftly go back to work as the economy needs it”
Modern economy requires the mother to go out and work, and the burden remains on her neck. Mariam (PBUH) was in a similar situation. the Noble Qur’an recounts us
And the pains of childbirth drove her to the trunk of a palm tree. She said, “Oh, I wish I had died before this and was in oblivion, forgotten.(19:23)
But he called her from below her, “Do not grieve; your Lord has provided beneath you a stream.And shake toward you the trunk of the palm tree; it will drop upon you ripe, fresh dates.So eat and drink and be contented. And if you see from among humanity anyone, say, ‘Indeed, I have vowed to the Most Merciful abstention, so I will not speak today to [any] man.(19:24-26)
These verses are pure empowerment for the Modern women. Empowerment in a climate where the weakest among us loses the struggle in the concrete jungle. The woman is undergoing a rigorous treatment. The society makes work compulsory on everyone including single mothers that already have challenging lives.
Although we have this colossus image of Mary (MPBUH), we still see apprehension and pain whilst her environment was turning against her. Allah سبحانه و تعالى assured her that he will provide for her. However the level of trust from her side was only possible as the relation between Mary and her creator previously existed. Real motherhood long gone. Instead they replaced it with Neyo’s “Miss Independent” a fake image of a woman who denies that happiness is attained through Marriage and family life.
Mariam ( May peace be upon her) was also independent. Independent from any physical support from this world. She would worship and develop remarkable abilities to rely on Al Wakeel ( The ultimate trustee). This gave her cutting edge and true superiority over many others. ” Mothers, Brothers Sisters and Fathers, we must understand that Allah سبحانه و تعالى is in control of everything, so what gives us the right to believe we are the real providers?”
The Noble Quran tells us…So she conceived him, and she withdrew with him to a remote place ( 19 :22)
The Emphasis for our argument lies on “remote place” So when nobody knew about Mariam’s pregnancy, who was providing for her ?. She decided to withdraw herself and Allah سبحانه و تعالى out his justice and mercy decided to take care of her.
(typical depiction of radical feminist propaganda The woman on the picture represents is denying the fact that both components female and male are vital for the existence civilisation)
These verses are bites on bullets for the haters back then and today. They shun the female and degrade her for having a child without being married. They make it hard on single mothers and invent lies about them. An impregnated single mother looses against society knowing or unknowingly. How many pregnancies end up to be an abortion. Pro-choice contradicts building a nation. Unexpected pregnancies come in times of hardship.The same way glad tidings were given to Mariam (MPBUH).
Internchange does not advocate a pro-promiscuous society, but are we forgetting that Allah سبحانه و تعالى is in charge of all affairs.
He said, “I am only the messenger of your Lord to give you [news of] a pure boy.” ( 19:19)
He said, “Thus [it will be]; your Lord says, ‘It is easy for Me, and We will make him a sign to the people and a mercy from Us.And it is a matter [already] decreed.'(19:21)
So when angel Gabriel announced that Mariam (MPBUH) will be among the best women, we forget that Allah سبحانه و تعالى chose her to have boy. Do we forget that Allah سبحانه و تعالى decides when a child will be born regardless of the situation?
And [mention] when the angels said, “O Mary, indeed Allah has chosen you and purified you and chosen you above the women of the worlds 3:42
“Mothers, Sisters and daughters, Allah سبحانه و تعالى chose Mariam ( MPBUH) above the women of the worlds, despite her being a single parent. Allah سبحانه و تعالى gave her a great status, for her qualities such as, modesty, consistency and bravely against the false allegations. Let us have a glance at society today. What is promoted, and how is the strong woman depicted in the media ?. She has to be sexy, reckless desperate and wild. She has to be self-centred and career driven. She has to be beautiful, slim and adhere to what the fashion houses in Paris dictate. Allah سبحانه و تعالى elevates Mariam ( MPBUH) and says to us, male and female “she is an example to you”. “Follow her footstep as good as you can”.
These pessimistic and negative people existed before. The noble Quran tells us
Then she brought him to her people, carrying him. They said, “O Mary, you have certainly done a thing unprecedented.(19:27)
O sister of Aaron, your father was not a man of evil, nor was your mother unchaste.”(19:28)
As aforementioned people at Mariam’s time, and people today have the same way of degrading women. These verses mirror thousand of years of bad practice from people that hold subjective realities and judge according to it. So it is not a coincidence that women hesitate to bear children or even to get married. Women don’t want to be stigmatised any longer.
“You are only good female if you stay at home”. You only worthy, if you honour your customs regardless how backwards they are. ” Your are dishonoured, you are a shame to the nation, You are cheap and clean”. The philosophy of “only god can judge me” are now counter arguments for those who fall into these situation that are clearly harmful for them. The “Only God can judge me” motto becomes just another form of defence mechanism. What is the outcome of such a statement. Well groups like Femen use it as an opportunity as seen in the Amina Sbou case earlier this year.Whereby Sympathy is all what it takes to eliminate negativity and produce a line of strong women.
But Allah سبحانه و تعالى repsonds to these accusation in manner we should pay attention to. The noble Qur’an tells us
And [We cursed them] for their disbelief and their saying against Mary a great slander,( 4:156)
Allah سبحانه و تعالى makes clear that you can slander the women for it, but he ( exalted is he) is the final judge. We must look at it from the third person perspective. We should advise, forbid the evil and enjoin the good as a society. However judeging without understanding the situation of the individual and then swiftly jumping into conclusion is not what is meant by it. The people were making assumption without having a prove against Mariam (MPBUH). We all see that the situation is getting out of control. People start to literally slander Mariam . Although as the situation gets more intense the bigger the miracle becomes. The noble Qur’an tells us then
So she pointed to him. They said, “How can we speak to one who is in the cradle a child?”( 19:29)
[Jesus] said, “Indeed, I am the servant of Allah . He has given me the Scripture and made me a prophet.(19:20)
The lesson here is not to despair and firmly point to the miracle if we perceive it. Rejoice and be thankful, for the affair of the believer is beautiful. If something bad happens he remains thankful and praises his lord, if something good happen he remains positive.Being happy with the situation and appreciating such things will give advantage in life. An almost constant state of happiness. We must direct ourself to the sky and trust in Allah سبحانه و تعالى, as Mariam pointed to Isa ( MPBUH) to refer back to Allah سبحانه و تعالى. These acts seem simple, but putting ourself in her situation we see a young women who never had any sexual contacts with a man being accused of something like that. The only thing she knew was the worship of her creator. She managed to overcome the social challenges and kept her cool and succeed at the end.
( not only for women)
How many of us slander women on the basis of that she is something. Some people tend to forget, that we live in times of extreme over sexualisation. In the centre of the disaster is the woman. Her image used to cause million dollar companies to break record sales. Used to cause corruption and target young children and men to fall into immoral acts.
In extreme cases, incidents like Rehtaeh Parsons,17, will continue to happen. Rehtaeh committed suicide, because of images appeared on the web of her being Gang raped. She was found by her mother in the bathroom of their family home in Nova Scotia shortly after she hanged herself in April this year. How many more case like that have to happen before we realise that we are have a problem with sexuality and how women are seen in general. Many young children are raised without a father figure. We don’t say that household without father are bound to fail, but we must acknowledge the differences of these households. As a society the focus should be on protecting children. Birth itself is the reason we progressed. Why is it now that care less about it. The noble Qur’an tells us.
And We made the son of Mary and his mother a sign and sheltered them within a high ground having level [areas] and flowing water.(23:50)
He will speak to the people in the cradle and in maturity and will be of the righteous.”(3:46)
And He will teach him writing and wisdom and the Torah and the Gospel(3:48)
Birth indeed is a miracle so let us not belittle this miracle that happen millions times on the earth. Mothers and Sisters, and Daughters don’t let anyone tell you that you are worth nothing because We established regardless of your circumstances people cannot strip away the Lordship of Allah سبحانه و تعالى . it does not mean that you are filthy or not pure. The repentance is for the one who sincerely seeks it. The chance to obtain modesty while you’re in that stage is not impossible as the noble closes this article with the verses
And [mention] the one who guarded her chastity, so We blew into her [garment] through Our angel [Gabriel], and We made her and her son a sign for the worlds. (21:91)
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